Illusionist Derren Brown on why the stories we tell ourselves cause our suffering, the limits of self-help, stoicism, shame, and coming out late.

Derren Brown — British illusionist, mentalist and author known for psychology-based TV specials and live shows (Sacrifice, Miracle, Showman) and books on happiness.
Derren Brown joins Steven Bartlett to discuss how his childhood as a shy, twitchy, deeply religious only child shaped a people-pleasing performer who used magic and hypnosis as a kind of dazzling surface to hide shame about being gay before coming out in his thirties. He argues that fundamental traumas and insecurities are never fully healed, pushing back on self-help, the Law of Attraction, and faith healers who blame victims for not believing hard enough. Drawing on stoicism, he explains the x-equals-y diagram of life versus fortune and why we should focus only on our own thoughts and actions. He recounts staging secular 'healing' and fake mediumship to reveal how suffering has a psychological component and how our narratives diverge from reality. He closes on goal-setting traps, gratitude-based motivation, love as accepting another person's mystery, and the shift in midlife from external success to internal meaning.
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Richard Dawkins
“the Richard Dawkins book The God Delusion came out around the time that I had sort of mentally made that step” — Derren Brown 00:07:44Find it on Amazon
Derren Brown
“the last show I've done is on Netflix called sacrifice if people have no idea who I am and they've listened this far” — Derren Brown 00:47:26Find it on Amazon
Derren Brown
“the other thing was actually doing I did a show called Miracle which is so this is also on Netflix” — Derren Brown 00:55:49Find it on Amazon
Derren Brown
“there was a in one of the shows I did I had an audience on stage this was in Infamous which was a previous Stage Show” — Derren Brown 00:51:19Find it on Amazon
Derren Brown
“showman is about how the things in life that are difficult are actually the very things that we share” — Derren Brown 01:09:31Find it on Amazon
Derren Brown
“I had the book on happy happiness come out which is essentially a book of Greek philosophy come out the same month as a ghost trainer” — Derren Brown 01:05:08Find it on Amazon
Derren Brown
“chapter three in your book A book of secrets is about the role friction has the relationship it has with with happiness” — Steven Bartlett 01:13:57Find it on Amazon
David DeSteno
“there's a great book by David Destino called emotional success and I thought it was great he was talking about motivation” — Derren Brown 01:15:00Find it on Amazon