Young Men Are (Quietly) Giving Up...Here’s Why!

Prompted by the UK's 'Lost Boys' report, Steven Bartlett, Scott Galloway and Logan Ury discuss the converging crisis facing young men: falling behind in education, higher unemployment, fewer relationships and rising loneliness. They trace the first domino to boys losing a male role model, the lack of men in teaching, and an economy that rewards only the remarkable. They dig into a dating crisis driven by hypergamy, dating apps, height filters and 'porches of polygamy' where top men monopolize the market while most men opt out into porn, gaming and red-pill communities. The conversation closes with concrete advice for young men, parents and society, plus reflections on emotional expression, therapy and finding purpose.

• Scott claims two-thirds of divorces can be traced to the man starting to earn less than his partner, with divorce risk doubling when she out-earns him.
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• Scott warns we are 'literally evolving a new species of asexual asocial male,' with a 1-in-3 substance-abuse risk for men single by 30.
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• Scott argues kindness is men's underused 'secret weapon' in dating, alongside signalling resources and humour.
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• Scott says only 1 in 3 US men under 30 has a girlfriend versus 2 in 3 women, because women date older.
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• Scott confesses his entire identity as a man has been defined by money and that economic viability dominates a man's worth.
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• Scott criticizes both political sides: the right conflates masculinity with cruelty, the left tells men to act more like women.
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• Scott admits that when his first son was born he felt only shame, being 42 and broke, not joy.
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• Logan pitches reading fiction as a zero-dollar way for men to build empathy and 'get inside the head of a woman.'
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• Males aged 16-24 not in education or employment has risen by a staggering 40%.
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• The share of male teachers has dropped to around 24%, and 72% of middle-school teachers are women.
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• About 25% of US children live without a biological, step or adoptive father; mother-only homes doubled from 11% (1968) to 21% (2020).
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• Girls' prefrontal cortex develops roughly 18 months ahead of boys', and the maturity gap may be widening.
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• Soon for every two women who graduate college only one man will, deepening the dating 'mating gap.'
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• Many US women set dating-app height filters at 6 feet, but only 14% of US men are that tall.
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• A man of average attractiveness must swipe right around 1,000 times on Tinder to get one coffee.
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• Roughly 30% of internet traffic is porn-related, about 80% of it consumed by men.
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• Per Pew, more than 50% of men aged 18-24 have never asked a woman out in person.
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• Around 75% of suicides in the UK and worldwide are men; suicide is the leading cause of death for young men in 50 countries.
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